Wedding lists and gift registries have only existed since the 1920s, but the idea has evolved over time to include just about anything from toasters and tea sets to plane tickets and money. Yet for some, the mere mention of a wedding list can cause embarrassment and, at worst, rifts amongst friends and family. It can be a veritable minefield, so we’ve compiled a list of wedding gift dos and don'ts to steer couples and their guests in the right direction for the big day.
COVER ALL BUDGETS
Bear in mind that there will be ranges of affordability amongst your guests. Cater for the affluent great aunt as well as the cash-strapped cousin. Putting a dinner-service on your list is a perfect way to ensure that everyone feels included.
KEEP IT PERSONAL
A gift list is about choosing something special for you and your betrothed to keep for always. Whether it is something that you will enjoy every day, or just benefit from occasionally, contributors will feel rewarded by a well-thought registry.
FUN OVER FUNCTION
Remember that some of your friends will want to be remembered for giving you something fun and not functional.
IT'S NOT ABOUT THE MONEY
It's not for us to judge, but asking for money is widely seen as a no-go, despite the growing trend. Our advice? Where possible steer away from talking hard, cold cash with your wedding guests ... and if you are really set on money over gifts, be as tactful as possible.
ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
The choice of gift is up to the giver, so receive it graciously no matter what.
IT'S A WRAP
Think inside the box. Beautiful presentation will transform the most humble of presents into a glorious gift.
KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY
An heirloom or something treasured for decades by the bride or groom. Packaged beautifully with a handwritten note, this is a personal gift which is bound to resonate.
HANDMADE WITH LOVE
If you are a skilled painter, potter or seamstress, creating a hand-crafted one-off piece to celebrate the occasion makes a precious souvenir.
IF IN DOUBT
If you feel inspired about what you would like to buy and it’s not included on the list, don’t be afraid to discuss it with the couple. They may love it as much as you do, or they may tactfully refer you back tothe registry. Do respect their feedback.
GIFT OF YOURSELF
A present doesn’t have to be tangible. If you are skilled in an area that could be of use to the couple, offer the gift of your time.